Wednesday, January 2, 2019

Movie trials


There was a time when my husband and I were regular movie cinema goers. For obvious reasons, since my son's birth there have been only a few occasions when we have gone to the theater to watch a film. Feeling that the time spent was worth it has become quite important for me. Recently, we came out of the movie hall in the intermission of the newly released film, K.G.F. While we saw its Tamil-dubbed version, it was still possible for me to understand the film overall because the story was so standard fare. Practically every scene was dark and had multitudes of goons belonging to different gangs, who finally were easily getting beaten by the hero. However, I am hearing that despite the redundancy, K.G.F. has become a success even in its dubbed Hindi version.

Another film that I saw in the theater to have disheartened me last year was Mani Ratnam's Chekka Chivantha Vaanam  (meaning the crimson red sky). Boasting of a stellar cast of Aravind Swamy, Jyothika, Vijay Sethupathi, Simbu, and Prakash Raj, the movie was interesting in its first half, leaving me guessing which of the three brothers was responsible for ordering the attack on their father, a don's life to inherit the empire after him. However, post interval the film lost its intrigue, and the ending seemed to be as if Mani Ratnam and his co-writer did not know how to close the movie. I found it even comical, though I am sure that was not the director's intent, so much so that it diluted whatever impact Chekka Chivantha Vaanam had initially registered.

My movie trials are far from over even watching a film together with my husband at home. At the end of a tiring day, if it is not able to hold my attention, I end up falling asleep even if I am the one to have selected the film. Therefore, it was a pleasant surprise to watch Andhadhun on Netflix on Christmas. We could not see it in one shot as our son woke up after his afternoon nap. However, despite the breaks, the movie did not lose its flow for me.

The story line of Andhadhun is that a blind piano player, Akash (Ayushman Khurana), becomes an "eye witness" to the murder of an aging film star. Akash had been invited by the film star to give a private concert to his wife Simi on their wedding anniversary. While Akash is giving his musical performance, Simi is disposing off the film star's body with the help of her lover. In the events that follow both the witness and murderers make all possible efforts to protect themselves. These situations are thrilling, scary, and even funny occasionally.

After a long time, I felt completely invested in a film. I would recommend anybody who has not yet watched Andhadhun to definitely see it. Considering that I have such high standards these days, you will not be left disappointed.



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Thursday, December 27, 2018

Season to be Hopeful


Recently, I got to know that Prof. Aditi Simha, a faculty at the Department of Physics, IIT Madras passed away. I had worked in the same department and seen her many times in the corridors, but never had the chance to talk to her. Still the news was shocking as she was young. It is being said that she committed suicide by consuming some poisonous fruits taken from the campus. I am reading online that Prof. Aditi Simha was depressed related to personal problems, which might have prompted her to take her own life. However, I am unaware for how long she was battling depression. 

Life can indeed be harsh and hard. In the current times, what with Facebook and Instagram, everyone's life seems to be an open book. It looks like all our friends are always travelling, eating great food, and having fun. This facade would make anyone going through a low point in his/her life feel hesitant to approach even someone they have known since childhood. 

When things are troublesome, we must remind ourselves that no one can say that he or she has never had to struggle. Even for stepping into this world we have to wriggle our way out. How many times babies push themselves up when first learning to simply raise their bodies. As I watch my son grow, I see how in a desire to walk, run, and jump there is no fear of falling and he is willing to repeat the same exercise countless times with the same level of excitement and without tiredness. 

If you will simply look around, then you will find someone facing a greater ordeal than you. I travel by local train sometimes to get to my office. Indeed I only have to step on to the railway station to see poverty and the sorry state of some people's lives to know how much more I have. At the same time, I also come across men and women trying to make an honest living despite their unfortunate circumstances. When a blind man in return for buying only ten rupees of chikki (a sweet made of peanuts and jaggery) says "God bless you", I realize how much more I should be thankful. 

Our God is full of mercy and grace. From the time of our birth He has given us the inner strength to face our life's challenges. The proof of God's love for us is His great sacrifice of sending His only begotten Son to save us. Let this Christmas season be not only about being joyful but also hopeful. Believe that however difficult the times may be, He will hear us. Know that He is always with us, even if  no one else is. So hold on and do not let go.


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Saturday, December 15, 2018

My Comeback


There is something about year endings that pushes me to want to make a change. Way back in 2012 when I was in the US, it got me to start this blog. Now that 2018 is coming to a close, I am once again in contemplation mode.

Looking back, although it was not a deliberate move, I stopped writing some time beginning of September 2015 when I found I was pregnant. From then on life became quite different. I would become tired, emotional, irritated, and absentminded (occasionally). After a point, sleeping comfortably was a challenge. Amidst all this, our house was flooded twice during the heavy Chennai rains in 2015. In the last three months before the due date, the focus was on keeping active and preparing for the new member of the family.

My little bundle of joy arrived in April 2016. Since then things got busier in a way that I hadn't imagined despite all the "What to Expect" series of books that I had read. However, the craziness is worth it because it comes with these countless moments of joy.

My days are quite tied up as I am also working in a company. We have a six day week, and Sunday just flies away doing some household chores. My me time is now limited to watching videos at night for a couple of hours if I have the energy, but it is not satisfying. The movies, serials, and reality shows are all just too predictable or have disappointing endings.

I am feeling the need to do something that will make me more happy and the time spent more meaningful. Having refreshed my memories by going through some of my older posts, I am hoping that writing will do this for me.

Therefore, just as it is said for film actresses returning to the screen after a long hiatus, here I am, making a "comeback". So wish me good luck.



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Saturday, August 15, 2015

Satyamev Jayate (8): Rupaiyya… song



Babul pyaare, sajan, sakha re
Sun o meri maiyya
Bojh nahi main kisi ke sar ka
Na majhdhar mein naiyya
Patwaar banoongi, lehron se ladoongi
Arrey mujhe kya bechega rupaiyya!
Ho… Arrey mujhe kya bechega rupaiyya!

Kal baba ki ungli ko thaame chali thi
Kal baba ki laathi bhi ban jaaongi
Amma tere gharonde ki chidiya hoon main
Daana lekar hi waapas ghar aaoongi
Jiski fitrat mein hairat samaayi nahi
Jisko daulat se jyaada main bhaayi nahi
Aise saajan ki mujhko zaroorat nahi
Na kehne ka sunlo mahurat yahi
Akeli chaloongi, kismet se miloongi
Arrey mujhe kya bechega rupaiyya!
Ho… Arrey mujhe kya bechega rupaiyya!

Dil se dil ke taar toh jude nahi
Toh rasmon main daulat yeh kaahe bahe?
Hum toh pyar ki khwaish mein rishte bune
Toh rishton mein laalach hum kaahe sahe?
Kya shaadi ke aage zindagi hi nahi?
Jo shaadi hisaabon ki keval hai bahi
Aisi shaadi ki mujhko zaroot nah
Na kehne ka sunlo mahurat yahi
Subah si khiloongi, ratiya si bharoongi
Arrey mujhe kya bechega rupaiyya!
Ho… Arrey mujhe kya bechega rupaiyya!


The above song Rupaiyya… was played live at the end of Episode 3 of Satyamev Jayate, which tackled the issue of dowry in Indian weddings. This song has been composed by Ram Sampath, written by Swanand Kirkire and sung by Sona Mohapatra. The lyrics translate like this…


Dear father, my beloved, my friend
Hear oh my mother
A burden I am not on anyone's head
Neither is my boat in the stream's mid
A rudder I will become, the waves will I confront
How can money sell me!
How can money sell me!

Yesterday holding my father's finger I had walked
Tomorrow I will become his walking stick
Mother, I am your nest's bird
When returning home, food I will surely bring
In who's nature baffling us did not fit 
Who did not like me more than wealth
Of such a lover I have no need
To say "no" this is the appointed time, pay heed
Walk I will as a loner, my destiny will I encounter
How can money sell me!
How can money sell me!

The heart to heart strings never did connect
Then for customs why is this wealth being spent?
In the desire of love, relations we knit
Then in relations why greed should we accept?
Beyond marriage is there no life?
A marriage which by keeping accounts only drifts
Of such a marriage I have no need
To say "no" this is the appointed time, pay heed
Like morning I will bloom, like night will I loom
How can money sell me!
How can money sell me!

Sunday, August 9, 2015

Satyamev Jayate (7): Episode 3 Big Fat Indian Wedding



I know I am lagging way behind in my writings on Satyamev Jayate considering the progress that it has made by completing three seasons. But I guess it is never too late to talk about something important. So instead of giving up, I am choosing to continuing to go on.

Theme of the episode
In this episode the audience was specially comprised of men and women considered to be of marriageable age. Calling weddings as the national passion of India, host Aamir Khan involved the youngsters by asking them about their wedding plans. If a boy wants to arrive at the venue in a helicopter, then a girl knows for sure what she will wear during her marriage ceremony and later at her reception. But not all such dream weddings lead to happy endings.

Stories
We are first told of Komal, a resident of Delhi, whose marriage was fixed by her parents. While everything was nice in the beginning, as the date of the wedding approached the boys family started demanding dowry, which her parents agreed to give. On the day of the wedding itself while Komal was on the stage and the guests had arrived they asked for gold chain as a gift. After the marriage the demands escalated to funding her husband's trip to US and furniture for the home there. In US Komal was mistreated, assaulted, and deprived of her basic rights of even food when she refused to ask her parents to transfer the deeds of their home in her husband's name. Finally her husband locked her in their home without food to eat, water to drink and electricity to keep warm from the snow outside. In desperation she called a women's shelter who then covered her medical expenses and helped her to call her parents. In hindsight Komal's parents have realised that they should never have met any of the demands made by the boy and his family.

       Nishana, well educated with a Ph.D., was a lecturer in a college in Madurai. Though married into a well-off family, nearly 820 g of gold and one lakh rupees in cash had to be given as part of the dowry. After the wedding a demand for a car was made. Later the in-laws and her husband started finding fault in her appearance and forced her to undergo plastic surgery. All this affected her negatively and pushed her to commit suicide.

        Paramjeet Kaur's marriage was arranged in Punjab to a boy who was about to leave for Australia for his studies. In this process her parents were made to pay for his fees and tickets. Though originally she was supposed to join him there, he eventually left her behind within a week of their wedding. At her in-laws house she was continually ill-treated and insulted, not given any freedom and asked to bring in more money. Then one fine day they threw her out of the house. At the time of the episode telecast it had been three years since her husband has not returned back. Instead through his uncle's intervention he was asking for divorce over the internet.

The cause
When a girl's parents agree to spend lavishly for the wedding and give dowry, they do so thinking it is for their daughter's happiness. They worry that if the marriage falls apart then the society will look down on them. The fancy trends followed by the rich seep into the lives of the poor too, who also go beyond their means and take loans to to meet the needs of the rituals and celebrations.

The effect
In the episode the story of Santosh Kumar and Ruby Devi is also narrated. In order to circumvent the problem of paying dowry Ruby Devi's father kidnapped Santosh Kumar in whom he found a suitable groom and forced him into marrying his daughter. It is a surprise that despite such unusual circumstances their marriage turned out to be a success.

Turning it around
We are told that the group Tanzeem Khudaam E Millat has started the tradition of "no band, no baraat (groom's wedding procession), no dowry" during weddings. As part of the festivities only juice and water are served whether the involved families are rich or poor. Mr. Ummedi from the this group told that in Burhanpur which follows this model not one girl has been burnt in 60 years over the issue of dowry.

        Finally Rani Tripathi was invited on the stage and her bravado was brought into limelight. Like other girls whose story we heard in the episode, her wedding was fixed and similarly at the heels of the marriage the soon to be in-laws demanded a car. On hearing this she was angered and decided to not accept things lying down. Rani along with her brothers and parents did a sting operation on the in-laws. The recorded video shockingly caught the guilty party shouting with arrogance and demanding for car and money. Interestingly when this video was telecast on tv many people came out in support of her and men sought her for marriage for her gutsy nature, which is how she met her husband.

Action
Before winding the episode Aamir Khan asked the audience of their views after hearing everything. A sea change occurred in the thinking of the girl who at the start of the episode knew perfectly how her wedding would be. Very wisely she said that she'd come to the conclusion that she'd rather have a simple and lasting marriage over an elaborate wedding. She added that if the couple still wanted something fancy then they should do it from their own money and not of the parents'. Aamir Khan ended by saying that we should aim to prepare our children for their entire lives instead of being consumed by the desire to achieve one perfect day.

My comments
I have an indirect connection with this theme. I had a classmate in school, Amit Goyal. I remember him as a brilliant student, loved by the teachers, friends with everyone and yet without arrogance. Everybody knew he would become something in life. But that was not to be. One day when I was in Class 4th I reached my classroom room to learn that he had died. His mother who was being harassed for dowry could not take it any longer. She put her son to sleep and then set him and herself on fire. Neither survived.

I have lived a major portion of my life in Delhi. The weddings there were grand. On some occasions there would be week-long pre-wedding celebrations like sangeet (music and dance night) and mehndi (henna design). The food spread was always lavish. There would also be separate elaborate counters for chaat (all kinds of savouries), desserts and drinks. The clothes worn by the bride and groom were gorgeous. I have heard of occasions where parents have travelled to other cities like Jaipur and Lucknow to get specially designed dresses made. But the expenses however do not end with the marriage and reception. I have heard of traditions in which during the first year of marriage at each and every festival (holy, diwali, christmas, new year, etc) the girl's parents must give gifts to the boy and his family. One of my friends who was going to get married was excited at the prospect of shopping for an all new wardrobe as the custom is that the bride is not supposed to bring with her any of her old clothes.

One point where I felt this episode of Satyamev Jayate lacked was in discussing the history behind dowry. Questions like when did giving dowry become a part of weddings, why was it made a part in the first place and when did it change to becoming a matter of show should have been discussed. I am sure there are researchers who must have studied this.

The reason the system of dowry continues is that we have accepted it. In the hit movie 2 States released last year, Ananya (Alia Bhatt) is visiting her boyfriend Kirsh (Arjun Kapoor) in Delhi when they go to attend a wedding. Just before the rituals can begin the groom's parents demand a bigger car than they are being gifted. To arrange for the equivalent money all the relatives start chipping in, the women by giving their jewellery. Then Ananya decides to intervene and has a chat with the groom. She makes him realise how lucky he is to have found a lovely and smart wife who is better than him and so he should settle for the small car and get married. The groom finally finds his voice and does exactly that. In the movie Ananya is applauded for this act as she is able to save the day. But isn't this giving a wrong message? After all the groom still took the small car as a "gift". Don't you think Ananya should have instead talked to the bride and asked her to walk out? Could she guarantee that after the marriage this groom would manage to take a stand against his family in the secure confines of their home?

Rani Tripathi's sting operation video showed how the demands of the in-laws are sometimes not even made subtly, but with screaming. They feel that as they have invested a lot for their son (education, career, etc) who will now be taking care of his wife they deserve what they are asking for, that it is their right. The sons who either themselves want to benefit from this situation or are controlled by their parents, do not raise any opposition. Though it is in the presence of God that the vows are taken and the wedding ceremony is performed, such men and women definitely do not fear Him. Clearly their sight  is fixed on all that is worldly. But this not what the Lord wants us to go for. In Matthew Chapter 6, Jesus Christ tells us:

33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things[a] shall be added to you.

[a] such as food, clothes, money, necessities of life, etc.

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Saturday, August 1, 2015

Papanasam



Remade in Tamil from a Malayam film Drishyam, Papanasam stars Kamal Haasan, Gauthami and Asha Sharath. After a long time I found a movie with no frills managing to keep me gripped solely on the strength of its story and acting.

Suyambulingam is a cable operator living with his wife and two daughters in a small town by the same name. Though educated only till 4th class, he has acquired for himself a home, 5 acres land, a jeep and a bike. Many of the things that he has learnt have come through the movies that he watches daily. Everything is going well, until one night in his absence his elder daughter Selvi accidentally kills her blackmailer Varun (IG Geetha's son) and his wife helps to dispose off the body. When Suyambulingam returns and finds what has happened, he quickly grasps that an inquiry regarding Varun's disappearnce would be imminent and the connection to his daughter will for sure be revealed. He then uses all his knowledge from films to protect his family. The fact that the steps that he takes are intelligently crafted and are not predictable make the film interesting till the end.

Keeping the entertainment quotient of the film aside, I would like to highlight something which struck me here. In the first half of Papanasam, Suyambulingam is shown as a hardworking and upright man. He refuses to accept a delayed dowry from his father-in-law. He stands up against an arrogant, local constable, Perumal who tries to make use of his power and troubles people for personal gain. When told to be careful in his behaviour towards men with authority, he says that being innocent he is not scared of the police and only fears God. But this God fearing nature is instantaneously pushed aside the moment Suyambulingam is himself put to test. He does not take much time in hatching plans to keep the truth from coming out. As he proceeds in his endeavour, that he has a guilty conscience is never really shown. Only towards the close does he express his sadness at having taught his children to lie.

It appeared to me that the story tends to justify the protagonist's actions in terms of his belief that the law will not consider Varun's death an accident, that Varun was blackmailing would not be revealed and that his daughter and wife would be sent to jail which would besmirch their names. But God knows our hearts and we wouldn't be able to absolve ourselves as easily in front of Him.

The Bible tells us that He wants us to be holy and perfect, just the way He is. In Matthew Chapter 8, Jesus Christ has warned:

7 Woe to the world because of offences! For offences must come, but woe to that man by whom the offence comes!

What He says further in verses 8 and 9 tells us how strict or disciplined we have to be with ourselves to match the standards expected of us.

8 If your hand or foot causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you. It is better for you to enter into life lame or maimed, rather than having two hands or two feet, to be cast into the everlasting fire. 9 And if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it out from you. It is better for you to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes, to be cast into hell fire.

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Thursday, March 19, 2015

Upper bound




Early January I heard the following statement:

"Our limitations are self-inflicted."

Though these profound words were said in the context of doing science, they do ring a bell even in our daily lives. One can say that if you let distractions like gossip, worries, jealousy, and even success affect the way you function, then these are limitations that you have created yourself. In my opinion, however, not everything that stops us from moving ahead is of our own doing. For instance, certain health issues crop up sometimes due to a family history or simply out of nowhere. The world economy crumbles and the jobs once considered secure, are lost. Your best laid plans fall flat for no fault of yours.

In comparison I feel our fears are perhaps always self-imposed. A classic example is my fear of dogs since school days (see an old post on it here). Now well into my 30s, I am still not prepared to overcome this phobia. Even today I will do everything possible to keep the longest distance from stray dogs on the streets. On a more serious note, there can be other deeper fears, such as a fear of opening your heart to love, a fear of commitment, a fear of abandonment, a fear of losing someone dear, a fear of falling short of people's expectations, etc. that can hold you back from finding happiness and peace.

When I discussed this topic of fears with a colleague I met during a conference, she said that in her opinion our fears can also keep us safe. The fear of getting duped, robbed, assaulted or raped can force us to be more aware of our surroundings, to not be naively trusting and to take certain precautionary measures. Indeed it may be one such step that could ultimately protect us from an untoward happening. However, the unease lurking in our minds can also bind us, curtail our independence and hinder us from what we might otherwise be capable of achieving were we living in a utopian world.

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